Assistants in Focus Series 7 – Non-believing Spouse

Many assistants have struggled to maintain a balance between marriage and the work of God.
I know that the greatest pleasure of a person who serves God is to be at church, but if you do not act with wisdom you will never be able to gain your non-believing spouse for Jesus.

If you find yourself in this situation you cannot go to the church every day and leave your husband alone at home.
Many have done this and have caused many problems in their marriage, always claiming that the spouse is not of faith and therefore does not understand him/her, in fact wanting to disrupt the spiritual life.
That may happen, but don’t you think as a man/woman of God, you should give a good testimony and show that you also care about him/her?

Perhaps you still have not been able to bring your spouse to church because he/she hasn’t seen a testimony on your part, you leave him/her alone every night and go to church, perhaps ignoring your spouse, there is no time for dialogue nor to give attention to one another and therefore your marriage is cold and there are always arguments.

Another thing you should consider is Sundays, of course the first fruits are of God on Sunday morning and you should seek your Lord, but what about the rest of the day?
You stay the entire day at church on Sunday and leave your spouse having lunch and stay the entire day alone?

You believe this is fair and pleases God? Of course not, you have to be wise, balanced, we do not do the work of God only when we are at church, we also do it inside our home, and perhaps you say, "but I've been a dedicated assistant and exemplary at church", I believe in that, but at home have you been this way also?

Of course when the husband/wife is an assistant and is in the same faith you have more freedom to be in church because he/she will be with you, otherwise you will have to make certain sacrifices.

Just one more thing, if your spouse is not an assistant, but he/she goes to church and you have also acted this way, thinking; "he/she understands, he/she is of faith," it is still wrong, you should pay attention to your spouse and not leave him/her abandoned and alone all day, month after month, if it were the opposite would you like it?

“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.” 1 Peter 3:1-2

Task: You will make a schedule of the days you go to church and the days that you will stay at home with your spouse. The same thing on Sundays, give your all in the morning, then go have lunch with your spouse and stay the afternoon with him/her. That will please God and will change your marriage a lot and even your spouse.

*Extracted from Mrs. Tania Rubim Blog