In total sincerity, evaluate which of the two describes you best and give a point to that answer. In the end, add up the number of points in each column, then the column with the largest number of points will show you which side you lean towards.
In case you fall into the first column, consider these two cures (http://www.renatocardoso.com/en/two-ways-to-cure-pride/):
PROUD
1.Righteous in your own eyes; a critic, you find fault in others
2. You’re extremely independent, self-sufficient;
3. You have to prove you’re right
4. You claim everything for yourself; you have a demanding spirit
5. You’re very worried about your reputation;
6. You wish success
7. You desire success at any price
8. You focus on others’ weaknesses
9. You’re anxious to be recognized (you’re hurt when others are promoted and you’re ignored)
10. You worry about yourself a lot
11. You keep others at a distance
12. You’re quick to blame others
13. Criticism makes you feel down
14. It’s hard for you to say: ‘I was wrong, forgive me’.
15. You wait for others to come and ask for forgiveness
16. You believe there is nothing you need to repent about
Humble
1.Compassionate; you think the best of others
2.You recognise your need in others
3.Willing to yield the right to be correct
4.You have a meek spirit
5.You deny yourself
6.You’re motivated to serve others
7.You want to make others successful
8.You have your mind on your own spiritual needs
9.You don’t label yourself deserving (you’re happy when others are praised)
10.You are not worried about yourself
11.You risk getting close to people and loving them sincerely
12.You take responsibility
13.You receive criticism with a humble and open spirit
14.You quickly admit your mistakes and ask for forgiveness if it’s necessary
15.You take initiative in reconciling, it doesn’t matter how big the person’s mistake was
16.You realize you have a need to take a sincere rout and continue repent
How to deal with pride
Most likely the majority of those reading, this post, are not among the proud. So we’re going to give you several hints on how to deal with proud people, if you are suffering the misfortune of living with one.
Wait for that person to come to you. Clearly, this will perhaps never happen if he or she is really extremely proud. But confronting or criticizing them definitely is not the answer, even if you’re intention is to help. The proud normally interpret this as if you are calling them weak.
Discreetly ask someone you respect and who’s capable for help. It’s dangerous if the person comes to understand that it was you who asked for an intervention. But if done correctly, it can bear fruit. The proud usually don’t respect anyone, but they’re capable of considering someone who is more successful than they are.
Give advice making them think that it was their idea to begin with. Proud people are usually not open to others advice. That’s why you have to make it seem like it was their idea. “What do you think if…” “Once you said that…” “Of course you know about…” The idea is to make them think that they already know and you’re simply trying to remind them.
Create a friendship, which instills confidence. It’s very difficult for a proud person to open up. The only chance of this happening is when he or she is certain that they can trust you. So, offer your sincere friendship and involve yourself with things which interest the person. Then you two can talk openly about such subjects. This will create bridges and entryways so the proud person opens up in other areas of their life as well.
Don’t spare proud people from embarrassing situations. It’s good that he/she learns from the results of their attitudes.
Pray for him/her. Sometimes the only thing left for you to do is pray for them. Intercede for the person in prayer. Miracles happen!
If you have any other hints you can write them below.
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By Bishop Renato Cardoso
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